Audrey wrote:Well, I just spent a half hour reading this entire thing. And wow. d=
I'll give my two cents: There is nothing wrong with women wearing pants. At least to me. If you want to wear skirts, good for you! I applaud you for that. But do not expect every woman to wear a skirt because of YOUR convictions. I wear jeans. Skinny jeans, in fact. I know, I know. What a shock. I must be causing men to lust after me! Trust me when I say that not all skinny jeans are indeed "skinny". They're just named that because they don't flare out at the bottom, unlike a lot of women's pants. I don't like that style, so I choose to wear jeans that could be considered "skinny". Compared to many other skinny jeans out there, I don't find mine immodest. They cover me and aren't super tight. That is my opinion, and I don't plan to change it.
Honestly, at this point I'm like "Wear what you want, as long as it makes you feel good about yourself." I've noticed my opinion on this is quite different than what other people believe. d= I'm in college three days a week, so I see a lot of people walking around in every sort of outfit. And as long as it's not super scandalous, I don't see a problem with it. If that's what makes you feel good, what can make you walk around with confidence and say to yourself "I like how I look today", go for it. There's so many girls who aren't comfortable with how they look. So if they think they look great in not-so-loose jeans and a v neck shirt, who are you to deny them?
I'm being a bit brash here, so excuse me. d= But I as a girl do not plan my wardrobe around what makes YOU comfortable. I'm sorry if you're lusting after me. But I cannot control you. I am not asking for it. I wore this outfit to make myself feel good, not to attract you. If men are looking at me as some sort of object, that is not my problem. Because frankly, even if I dressed in a berka, they will either still lust or there will be a girl in a crop top and short shorts walking by. It's going to happen. You cannot avoid it. Sorry, but welcome to the 21st century.
This might be a bit difficult for some people (mainly guys xD) to get, but most girls don't dress for guys' attention. I like how I look in skirts and dresses that are inches above my knees. I don't wear them because I want guys fawning over me. I wear it because I want to. Sure, there's limits to what I wear. But those limits exist because I know what I am comfortable with.
Look, everyone's different. Everyone has different standards. I wear things that many people on this board would consider immodest. But I can't dress to your standards. What I like to wear may be super conservative for someone else, or be really immodest. So I will dress how I believe is okay for me. Because how women dress isn't up to anyone but the woman herself.
I've heard many people say that it's the guys fault for lusting. Yes, it may "happen all the time"
BUT the girl can try to lessen it. It's also the woman's fault. You should try to dress in a way that glorifies God and in a way that lessens guys lusts. You may "dress the way you want cause you feel good that way" But that doesn't help guys out there. Romans 13:14 says Rather, clothe yourselves with the Lord Jesus Christ, and do not think about how to gratify the desires of the flesh.
And Romans 14:13 says Therefore let us stop passing judgment on one another. Instead, make up your mind not to put any stumbling block or obstacle in the way of a brother or sister.
13-23 says: Therefore let us not judge one another anymore, but rather determine this—not to put an obstacle or a stumbling block in a brother’s way. 14I know and am convinced in the Lord Jesus that nothing is unclean in itself; but to him who thinks anything to be unclean, to him it is unclean. 15For if because of food your brother is hurt, you are no longer walking according to love. Do not destroy with your food him for whom Christ died. 16Therefore do not let what is for you a good thing be spoken of as evil; 17for the kingdom of God is not eating and drinking, but righteousness and peace and joy in the Holy Spirit. 18For he who in this way serves Christ is acceptable to God and approved by men. 19So then we pursue the things which make for peace and the building up of one another. 20Do not tear down the work of God for the sake of food. All things indeed are clean, but they are evil for the man who eats and gives offense. 21It is good not to eat meat or to drink wine, or to do anything by which your brother stumbles. 22The faith which you have, have as your own conviction before God. Happy is he who does not condemn himself in what he approves. 23But he who doubts is condemned if he eats, because his eating is not from faith; and whatever is not from faith is sin.
So we need to be careful how to present ourselves.