Pound Foolish wrote:Why, thank you Vic. I like to think of myself as a shameless romantic. And I have to admit, it would be nice in many ways if Jason married Tasha. But I have my heart set on Monica.
Ameraca, your opinions on AIO are always very strong and well-thought out. But in this rare case, you're wrong.
You, "don't have to be similar to be a good couple"...
Of course not. Why shouldn't a reindeer fall in love with a purple alien?
We can agree there is in fact a line where dissimilarities become a problem. But it seems you have an incorrect idea of where that line is. You go ahead and assume any difference can be overcome by love. But love can't. Because love is aroused by similarities. J+C proponents never tire of the saying, "opposites attract."
True. But you don't marry someone because you're an architect and your date is a wrecking-ball worker. You marry someone because, say, you love books and someone else loves books. If you adored to write but someone else couldn't understand your passion, would you be likely to fall in love with him?
And of course, relationships have to be based on one particular similarity: Christianity.
Also, Connie left Mitch because their differences held them apart. "I was terrified." Connie earnestly explains to Mitch, who thinks danger is fun.
You do have to have things in common for love to work.
Opposites attract. But similarities hold lovers together.
Well, I guess my parents should have gotten divorced a long time ago, then. Seriously, they have almost nothing in common, except God and us kids and a common house. Oh, and a long history of good and bad times together. They were much more similar when they got married, but then Dad stopped doing the things Mom liked to do. They could have called it quits. But they didn't. Why? Because of Commitment. "Till death do us part" and all that.
I do believe it's best if people have commonalities; personally, I don't want to marry someone who is the exact opposite of me. I want to have a lot of common interests. But the most important similarities are, as you said, Christianity--shared faith. And commitment to each other, no matter what happens. Oh, and Love I suppose might be a good one to throw in there.

I believe Jason and Connie have/have the potential to have these most important characteristics of a successful relationship.
There. That's probably all I'm going to say because I don't want to get into a big fat debate. I hate debates but sometimes I feel strongly about something I have to put in my two (or fewer) cents.